Al,

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You are my number one. The shark that bites when you touch their private parts. The piece of that corn I will always save for laters. The Thelma to my Louise. You are my flawless best friend. There are no words to depict just how grateful I am to have you in my life and I am so proud of everything you do. Thank you for always laughing with me. Thank you for everything. Happy birthday, pendeja. I look forward to killing the dance floor with you tonight to celebrate. 

xxx,

Hot Rod

teachingliteracy:

fashionsambapita: #privateinspiration #sambapita #vscocam

teachingliteracy:

fashionsambapita: #privateinspiration #sambapita #vscocam

katefuckingwinslet:

Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind (2004)

Come back and make up a good-bye at least. Let’s pretend we had one.

Can’t you see what you are doing? Can’t you see I’m scared to speak, and I hate my voice ‘cause it only makes you angry? I only talk when you are sleeping. That’s when I tell you everything. And I imagine that somehow you’re going to hear me…

—The Antlers, from Sylvia (via violentwavesofemotion)

Most people don’t seem to know my hair is naturally curly, mainly because I straighten it all the days. I’m letting it do its thing today, and I’m really diggin’ it, you feel me.

Most people don’t seem to know my hair is naturally curly, mainly because I straighten it all the days. I’m letting it do its thing today, and I’m really diggin’ it, you feel me.

(Source: dopefreshtunes)

 

dhrupad:

Arvind Desai Ki Ajeeb Dastaan (1979)


shawnali:
The first time I held a human brain in Anatomy Lab I was completely speechless. I looked at my classmates expecting a similar reaction and they looked back at me confused like…”dude let’s start identifying the structures.” I had to take a step back and let it process…in my hands was someone’s entire life. From start to finish, every memory, every emotion, every bodily control… was right there in my hands. 

shawnali:

The first time I held a human brain in Anatomy Lab I was completely speechless. I looked at my classmates expecting a similar reaction and they looked back at me confused like…”dude let’s start identifying the structures.” I had to take a step back and let it process…in my hands was someone’s entire life. From start to finish, every memory, every emotion, every bodily control… was right there in my hands. 

I think one thing you can do to help your friends who are depressed is to reach out to them not in the spirit of helping, but in the spirit of liking them and wanting their company. “I’m here to help if you ever need me” is good to know, but hard to act on, especially when you’re in a dark place. Specific, ongoing, pleasure-based invitations are much easier to absorb. “I’m here. Let’s go to the movies. Or stay in and order takeout and watch some dumb TV.” “I’m having a party, it would be really great if you could come for a little while.” Ask them for help with things you know they are good at and like doing, so there is reciprocity and a way for them to contribute. “Will you come over Sunday and help me clear my closet of unfashionable and unflattering items? I trust your eye.” “Will you read this story I wrote and help me fix the dialogue?” “Want to make dinner together? You chop, I’ll assemble.” “I am going glasses shopping and I need another set of eyes.” Remind yourself why you like this person, and in the process, remind them that they are likable and worth your time and interest.

Talk to the parts of the person that aren’t being eaten by the depression. Make it as easy as possible to make and keep plans, if you have the emotional resources to be the initiator and to meet your friends a little more than halfway. If the person turns down a bunch of invitations in a row because (presumably) they don’t have the energy to be social, respect their autonomy by giving it a month or two and then try again. Keep the invitations simple; “Any chance we could have breakfast Saturday?” > “ARE YOU AVOIDING ME BECAUSE YOU’RE DEPRESSED OR BECAUSE YOU HATE ME I AM ONLY TRYING TO HELP YOU.” “I miss you and I want to see you” > “I’m worried about you.” A depressed person is going to have a shame spiral about how their shame is making them avoid you and how that’s giving them more shame, which is making them avoid you no matter what you do. No need for you to call attention to it. Just keep asking. “I want to see you” “Let’s do this thing.” “If you are feeling low, I understand, and I don’t want to impose on you, but I miss your face. Please come have coffee with me.” “Apology accepted. ApologIES accepted. So. Gelato and Outlander?”

#613: How do I reach out to my friends who have depression? | Captain Awkward

P.S. A lot of people with depression and other mental illnesses have trouble making decisions or choosing from a bunch of different options. “Wanna get dinner at that pizza place on Tuesday night?” is a LOT easier to answer than “So wanna hang out sometime? What do you want to do?”

(via startrekrenegades)

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So much this…

When I’m at my worst, just being invited to drive with you while you run errands is often enough to keep me from doing a complete downward spiral, but please don’t guilt people for not being able to hang out… It’s the worst feeling of shame for having depression in the first place on top of worrying that you will lose those you love for being a shitty friend.

(via gallifreyglo)

2wentysixletters:

Typewriter Series #82

2wentysixletters:

Typewriter Series #82